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Tools for Relationships

By: James J. Messina Ph.D.

Table of Contents
Introduction & Prologue to Tools for Relationships

Handling Relationship Barriers
Handling Conflict
Productive Problem Solving
Handling Fear of Rejection
Handling the Need for Approval
Improving Assertive Behavior
Overcoming the Role of Victim or Martyr
Handling the Use of Power and Control
Handling Competition
Goal Setting in Relationships
Handling Intimacy
Handling a Fantasy Relationship
Handling Forgiving and Forgetting
Creating a Healing Environment
Helping Another Get Help

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