The LET GO System - For letting go of the need to control others
In order to progress in your recovery from the behavioral consequences of low self-esteem, you need to let go of the need to control the people, places, and things which are the uncontrollables and unchangeables in your life. In your past state of low self-esteem you once needed to control people, places, and things in your life in order to maintain your sanity in the midst of insanity. This need to fix, control, change, rescue, enable, give advice, and correct led to greater low self-esteem and increased insanity. So to be successful in recovery, you need to use the SEA's LET GO System:

            L Lighten Pressure
         E Exercise Rights
 T Take Steps
      G Give Up Need

O Order Life

L - Lighten Pressure
The first thing you need to do is to lighten the pressure when you feel the psychological need or compulsive drive to control, change, fix, rescue, enable, give advice, or correct other people, places, or things. To do this, use the TEA, ALERT, ANGER and CHILD Systems to help you become more rational and realistic about your current pressure or compulsive drive to control.

E - Exercise Rights
Second, once you have regained a healthier, more rational and realistic perspective on the current person, place, or thing you want to control, you need to exercise your right to declare that you can only change or control one thing and that is you.

T - Take Steps
Third, once you have accepted your personal responsibility for your own life, you need to take steps to cease your attempts to control, fix, change, rescue, enable, give advice, or correct other people, places, or things. You need to allow others to experience the natural consequences of their own thoughts, emotions, and actions.

G - Give Up Need
Fourth, once you have handed back to people, places, and things responsibility for their own thoughts, emotions, and actions, you need to give up the need to control to others in your life. You need to let go of the uncontrollables and unchangeables in your life by embracing the spirit, words, and meaning of the Serenity Prayer.