Turning negative non-feeling behavior into positive potential
Negative Non-Feeling Behavior: Nothing bothers them
Positive Potential: Being able to maintain their cool in the midst of adversity is admirable, as long as they first have been able to identify how they feel about the issues and recognize a healthy emotional course of action to take to rectify the problem.
Negative Non-Feeling Behavior: Can't identify how or what they feel
Positive Potential: Being educated in feelings and the vocabulary of emotions can help them to sensitize themselves to their own and others' feelings. Learning to listen and respond to feelings can help them to improve. It takes practice, practice, practice.
Negative Non-Feeling Behavior: Easygoing
Positive Potential: Easygoing people are comfortable to be with. They should be encouraged to retain this posture as long as it is authentic and as long as the others in their lives know how they feel about things and respect their rights in the process.
Negative Non-Feeling Behavior: Quiet, not verbally expressive
Positive Potential: Once they are educated in the emotional vocabulary and have had practice in identifying feelings in others and themselves, they will be able to state their feelings openly and to respond to others' feelings.
Negative Non-Feeling Behavior: Rarely complain
Positive Potential: Once they are able to identify their own negative feelings and are able to identify when their rights are being abused or taken advantage of, they will no longer be hesitant to complain when things aren't going right. They will ensure that their feelings and rights are considered and respected.
Negative Non-Feeling Behavior: Their silence frustrates others
Positive Potential: If they are given the chance to identify feelings in themselves and in other people, they will be less likely to frustrate the more verbal and emotional people in their lives. They will be able to communicate on a more equal, adult, and mature level.
Negative Non-Feeling Behavior: Resist making decisions on an emotional basis
Positive Potential: An over-dependence on the need for logic, facts, and figures before making a decision can be dissipated once they are shown the benefits of tuning into feelings and the process of communication. They will recognize that some decisions need the input of emotions and feelings in order to be healthy and satisfying to all involved.
Negative Non-Feeling Behavior: Need to be calm
Positive Potential: If they are given a chance to see the emotional and physical benefits of the open expression of feelings and emotions, they will no longer have to hold on desperately to their need to remain calm. They will be able to be more animated in their reactions and responses to issues that have an emotional value to them.
Negative Non-Feeling Behavior: Resentment over being pressured to reveal feelings
Positive Potential: Once they identify the benefits of expressing feelings, they will feel less pressure to do so; therefore, they will have less resentment toward others.
Negative Non-Feeling Behavior: Confusion about their feelings
Positive Potential: Once they are trained to listen and to respond to their feelings and those of others, they will no longer be confused as to what is going on in the emotional arena. They will be able to identify and clarify feelings for themselves.
