Fill out and score this inventory on your own, then share your results with your partner. Read the following forty statements concerning the status of your married life. Read each statement and then rate your marriage as it is right now. Use the following rating scale:
1 = Never True
2 = Rarely True
3 = Frequently True
4 = Almost Always True
5 = Always True
_____1. We enjoy the same interests.
_____2. We feel comfortable about allowing each other time with our own specific
individual friends.
_____3. We are in agreement about our goals and ambitions.
_____4. We are content with what each expects of the other in our marriage.
_____5. We are satisfied with each other as marital partners.
_____6. We freely chose the number of children that we have (or want) in our marriage
_____7. We agree with each other about the methods of disciplining children.
_____8. We feel that the other is or will be a good parent.
_____9. We agree on basic religious and moral values in terms of raising children
_____10. We have no conflict with teachings of our religion(s) in terms of its impact on
our married life.
_____11. We are in agreement concerning our religious beliefs.
_____12. Physical or mental health ills do not cause problems between us.
_____13. We accept the way each other handles personal problems.
_____14. We have no concerns about how each other handles anger, frustration and
controls temper
_____15. We compromise when discussing issues of conflict
_____16. We have no concern about each other’s moodiness.
_____17. Neither of us experiences depression.
_____18. We are not dependent on either set of our parents.
_____19. We are both most alert at the same time of the day.
_____20. We are not possessive of one another
_____21. We are good companions in doing things together.
_____22. We find that we are at ease with each other.
_____23. We are able to talk with one another on an honest and open level
_____24. We know how to fight fairly.
_____25. We are able to express our feelings openly with each other.
_____26. We work hard on our communication with each other.
_____27. We handle disagreements with each other in a loving way.
_____28. We are satisfied with the way in which we resolve our difficulties.
_____29. When we have offended one or the other, we talk it out.
_____30. We avoid doing any hurtful things to each other when we get angry.
_____31. We are not afraid of each other.
_____32. We do not feel pressure to stay in this Marriage
_____33. We have no concerns about each other’s ability to handle money.
_____34. We have enough income to cover our expenses.
_____35. We are in agreement about how we handle our savings, debts, and budget.
_____36. We have no concern about our in-laws causing friction for us.
_____37. We have no pressure from either of our families concerning our current
partner.
_____38. Neither of us is concerned about being sexually impotent or frigid.
_____39. We are content about the ways in which we show affection to one another
_____40. We are growing together in our married life to a full and rich sexual
relationship
_____ My Score
_____ My Spouse's Score
_____ Our Average Couple Score
